When to pull handbrake

To me, relationship can go both ways, forward or backwards. And in any romantic relationship I invest in, I know when it is time to pull handbrake and say good bye. I think we need to get this sorted out before we enter into relationship, when we are clear headed and have no excuses. This is especially, we’re are clouded with rosy memories, things he said or promised in the past, little “rights” he do, we immediately forgotten about their wrong.

By no means, being together is also about adjusting little changes and accepting some flaws here and there. BUT we need to know, when to draw the line. The following, are just a guideline which work for me. Everyone has their own measuring stick. It is best to sit down and think it through your lists of NO-NOs.

  1. You feel insecure and low self esteem
    • He’s judgmental to your actions and make you doubt yourself. Or are you trying very hard to please him that you begin to doubt your decisions. I have been in this type of relationship. He’s someone I look up upon, but he explicitly tell me his expectations on me, it made me doubt myself. It was only the day, I decided to leave him, only I begin to realize I wasn’t that horrible. Infact, people around me think I’m awesome and fabulous. From there, I deduced that, it was because he has been projecting his own insecurity upon me all along.
  2. You feel like chasing him all the time
    • I think relationship should be mutual. If you’re the only person doing all the work. Are you the one initiating all the conversation topics? Are you the one who always on the look out for him? Are you the one who always make the first move after every fights? If he is not trying or investing enough heart into it, then it doesn’t worth your time and effort. It will likely be the same moving forward. Do you want to spend the rest of your life – chasing? You’re not police and he’s not a thief. It should be mutual
  3. You think you can change him
    • I feel people are not changeable. Why date someone and change him into your mould. I guess, people wouldn’t do things the way they think is wrong. They have their own logic on the way of getting things done. If you think you can change him, think again. Rather, be with someone more similar to your mould, that way, you CAN CHANGE YOURSELF to accept those little flaws
  4. He doesn’t care about his family
    • To me, the way he treats his family, is the biggest indicator how he would treat you 20years down the road, when you too, become his family.
  5. He cheated
    • Does this even deserve explanation? Stop making excuse for him, and run

So here’s my list of red flags, if any of these appear, that’ll be my deal breaker. If it’s someone not suitable, why compromise and be unhappy for the next 40-50 years? We shouldn’t do that when we have a choice and the bargaining chips at hand. I’m very sure of what I want. What about you?

You complete or complement me?

I will always remember Dr. Goh Chee Leong’s class on his advice about relationship. “You are only ready for a relationship when you are a fully developed person. Only when you are a complete as a person, you will flourish in a relationship.” That piece of advice influenced me till this very day. As opposed to many popular belief, people find a partner to complete them. To fill in the void where their weakness are. But this not true. YOU are responsible to making yourself complete and be better. If you depend on your other half to fill in your void, when will you grow? What happens when he/she leaves you? This is where some people end up 要生要死 because their other half left. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean you shouldn’t have feelings when your other half left, but you should not think it is the end of the world without your other half. Now the logic becomes easier if you are a fully functioning and complete person when you meet your other half. So it doesn’t matter with or without the other, you are still a capable person – able to live life to your fullest potential.

So ask yourself, are you complete as a person? What are your weakness? Do you constantly need someone to validate you, to brush your insecure self-esteem. Is there a part of you that you think you need to improve? Maybe you want to be a better leader, maybe you want to be more happy, maybe you want to be more confident. I can tell you this, nobody can do it for you – except yourself. Some roads are meant to be walked on your own feet. If you expect someone else to do it for you, you will forever be dependent on the other. Then, when will you grow? Even if the other half don’t mind doing all these for you – what if, along the way some tragedy brings him away from you, will you be able to survive? Never depend your happiness upon others. Your happiness should not be completed by others.

Now the question comes, “Then why do you need a relationship when you are a fully functioning person?” This is the part where I mean finding someone who complement you. Recently I came across an article. It says when you are a complete person, you are like a person who walks on a street. You could walk without a walking stick, you are capable too if you want to run, and you are comfortable walking alone. Yet, if you have a partner, you could do more. Perhaps you dare to run faster, and take chances. Because if anything fails, you know someone will be there for you. Perhaps he is your cheerleader when you in doubt, he is your caretaker when you fall sick and perhaps a confidant to listen to you as you walk on the lonely nights. Therefore, your other half, is that icing on the cupcake, sauce for your sushi, which complement you. With or without, you are a completed piece of meal. If this person never appear or left, you still able to live to your fullest like everyone else.

Take charge of your life, live to your fullest potential and most importantly – be happy.

My Thoughts about Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

Do you believe if long distance relationship (LDR) will work? Like it or not, I have been on LDR 100% of my date life. FML. So, being a pretty pro-LDR girl, here are some of my thoughts about it:-

Mentally and Physically Independent

I remember when Shian was dating his university sweetheart from Sabah, he told me how his girl complained about him not present when she needed to move to a different house, while he was busy working in KL. Pretty much, if you're expecting your other half to be like the scene Song Joong Ki kneel down tied Song Hae Kyo's shoelace type, being the hero whenever you in trouble then LDR is not for you. Pretty much 70% of the time, you expect to do many things on your own even you have a boyfie. Simple activity like shopping, lunch, driving - you have to do it yourself. Are you able to date yourself and the other virtual half most of the time? He could only be there for you - mentally. And I guess it perhaps frustrates the guy too, when he could not do much to save his damsel in distress, just about any simple thing, like driving her our for supper. Ask yourself, could you live with this? Pretty much, you both emotionally depended on each other, but physically independent.

Trust

Due to the distance, trust play a very important role in the relationship. To leave no space for imagination and also build confidence in each other, both party have to make conscious effort to keep the other updated about  their whereabouts and who they hanging out with. For me, I mostly lean towards guys who are responsible and sensitive. Mostly, they would take initiative to tell me first what they're doing or their plans for the day, then I would in return would also do the same to them. To me, that is important. It gives me a piece of mind and be confident with whatever task at hand. How often you need to do that depends entirely on the need of your partner. Perhaps more needy and early part of relationship will need more, and could substantially reduce to a frequency that both are comfortable.Well, if you want to jump into a LDR make sure you are able to commit to such "reporting" and do not feel burdened by it. As for the rest of the cheating part, I guess there are many ways to go about checking the other, but for me there's no meaning in the relationship if you have to constantly spy, check on the other. We are not cop and thief to begin with.

Creative

Now with the constant reporting and no mutual activity nor mutual friends to talk about, slowly, conversations will dry up. Soon, will be the same old same old reporting, "Gah I'm so tired telling you about my friend who you know nothing about!" or "Zzzz why tell you when you couldn't do anything about it!" -mentality start mushrooming here and there. Slowly, you find your LDR text no longer give you that butterflies you always craved, your shiny virtual boyfriend becomes that old dusty radio that you wish there's a shut up button. Therefore here's when creativity comes in. In order you LDR couples to thrive in this trying times, both should learn ways to create some mutual activities, interest and likes togather. For example, watching a movie togather, going for some activitiy at the same time - different location, or planning the next get togather. In that way, dating LDR could be even more exciting than having someone physically closed to you.

Indeed, being in LDR for the longest time in my dating life, there are certain perks such as freedom. Basically because you spend lesser time being togather, you spend more time for youself. Doing things you like, growing yourself futher, etc. Think, living a life like a single, but actually you have a boyfie.

Regardless, I think LDR could not be sustained for a long long period of time. Yeah, they’re fun and all, but not practical. Especially for those who want to settle down eventually. And most of the time, you lost chance of trying to live together, observing the person more (how they interact with other, how they handle troubles, etc).

The other day when Mr. Y asked me the question weather I’m comfortable with the idea living apart after marriage. I wanted to tell him I’m not OK with the idea. Since I do intend to have children in the future, I could only imagine how hard it will be for a pregnant woman to live without her husband by her side. Yeah, dating time, I could be as independent I want to be, but when I’m pregnant and vulnerable, I want to have my man by my side taking care of me and going through this process togather, physically. I want the someone to carry by bag, drive me around, pat my back when I could not sleep etc. Is this request too much? How come it felt to hard to have what I want?

Even for the dating part, I’m now not sure if I want to spend another long long time with my other half being apart. I want physical closeness. I want to be the girl who got to be driven around town, that girl who eats sushi with her boyfriend after work, or this couple who play badminton togather. Even walking my dog togather puts a smile on my face. If I could and I hope my next relationship would not be in another long distance relationship. In that case, should I stop being in contact with Mr. Y? Where am I heading in this relationship? Am I playing with fire? In the end, I did not answer him the question.

Lessons about Money & Relationship

Cantonese people have a saying, money hurts relationship. This can be never more true. You can be the best power couple, but when we disagreement about money matters arise, it could turn pretty ugly. Either in separation or worst still divorced. Some couples fight over ways of spending (some feel that they should save more in future, some think they should spend it more, while some can give all hard earn money to family member when in trouble), some couple fight over who contributed more in the relationship (ex wife have bigger salary, so should contribute more in the household or have bigger say about ways of spending) and etc.

I remember when I was with my ex, there’s few things I did and did not address it over when it comes to money. Here’s my thoughts:-

  • Who should pay for the meal

I’m a strong believer the guy should pay for the meal, unless we were only normal friends, then I don’t even mind treating you. In my opinion, if you can’t even buy me a basic meal, then how do I expect you to take care of me in future? I remember telling him that dating shouldn’t be expensive, and we could date frugally and yet, be happy. Therefore, whenever he asks me where to eat, I say the kopitiam near his house also can. BUT, he on the other hand, once a while when I told him I will treat him out of my good will, devil horns will grow out and only eat best of the best. My mom say this type of people, 自己出钱就吃出眼泪，被人出钱就吃出大汗。I felt this is bad etiquette and even ungentlemanly for a guy. But before I could tell to him, he already left. I hope he don’t do that in future. So in my next relationship, I will still tell my partner the same thing, you are definitely going to pay for our dates, but let’s spend within our means and yet, be happy

  • Should he pay for your lifestyle too?

As for other expenditures which doesn’t overlap each other doing together such as your clothes, makeup items, toiletries, your gadgets, sneakers, then I think it is optional for him to pay for it but not a MUST. I mean, the girl should also be financially independent to be able pay off some some of her lifestyle expenditure. You can’t expect the man to pay off your debts and lifestyle. Like, spend how you would spend before you meet him. Again, girl should also live within her means and not be a parasite for the guy to pay for JUST EVERYTHING. Then, it is easy, people to see you as gold digger. If you expect your date to pay for your lifestyle also, then you should look for a sugar daddy, not a life partner.

  • Should we interfere in how we spend our money?

This question depends at what stage you both are in the relationship. If you are in a dating stage, where you both are not togather paying some loans, investment togather (even so, if your partner have been religiously paying his share of the loan), I think neither should interfere on how they spend their hard earn money. But if you both are married, and spending life togather under a shared income for the sake of your children, then I feel both need to sit down and discuss how they would contribute to the marriage. Ideally, I do not want a partner to be so petty with me where he should trust how I manage both our money together. But this level of trust comes from how you perform when you were togather. Are you a impulsive buyer, do you spend your money carelessly, etc. And, I feel both should never justify their power in the relationship based on their earning power. I believe both have equal say in how they spend despite the difference. That is because rationality is independent of earning status. When you earn more, doesn’t mean you make better decisions. Trump make stupid decisions too.

InBody Assestment#2

Remember about my weight loss journey post after my breakup which I posted somewhere in November last year? Read here. In fact, the first assessment was actually a baseline measurement. Well, my second measurement supposedly be done before Christmas 2020, but, me being the forgetful type have missed the chance (ie: measurements can not be taken after a workout or having meal). The measuring machine were rotated among the gyms in Kuantan. Normally it gets rotated back to the gym after I month. And yess, finally I get to do my assessment in March (after a good 4 months).

Here’s the side by side comparion:-

By roughly looking at it, my overall score has improved by 1 point. 72 to 73. I’m still getting a B for my performance. But, let’s not be influenced by the Asian mom mentality, and move on to the details. The fitness trainer said I have done pretty well actually looking at how I have gained some muscles and lost fats in the months. Even though my overall weight has gained, but I have shed fat and gain muscle. In other words, I’m heading towards the right direction in achieving my goal. Also, there is incremental on my leg muscles (thanks to running everyday ever since MCO started). No wonder, I feel my inner thighs has not been slapping each other lately. Another thing to note is that my stomach buldge has also flattened a little from freaking 200% to 193%. Goshh…. i want that barbie-waistline.

I guess, what work well to each individual is different. I felt what work well for me in this 4months was skipping night time dinner and doing alot of running. Running has improved from merely 3k run to 5k routine run. Here’s the side by side run comparison from I initially started in November:

But I had stopped running since CNY because I have injured my knees T_T Really looking forward to running to my favourite pop songs again. Oh yess, another thing that has worked for me was stop watching movies. I tend to snack when I watch movie, otherwise I will find the movie boring or not interesting.

我哭了。。

Recently I have been humming and singing this song 很久以后 by G.E.M, whether I’m idly doing something or in the shower or watering my plants. Without knowing the lyrics, I liked it the moment I heard this song. So I went google about the lyrics, only to realize perhaps the song is projecting what I’m feeling at the moment subconsciously. Here’s the song lyrics:-

也許是不甘心 也許是可惜
也許無法相信 突然身邊再也不是你
能給的都已經給你 能做的都用盡全力
也許遇見你是種幸運 分開卻是天意不是不能面對 又不是十八歲
愛過你的年歲 心裡至少真的不後悔
也許會不捨會落淚 但得不到也許才珍貴
也許再等等就有人會 比我們匹配很久很久很久以後
當我抱著別個他的時候
是否我就能夠 對你笑著揮手
好久不見的朋友 換個角色 對你問候誰還記得我們 曾多奮不顧身
失去你的人生 我像一棵樹被拔了根
如果只能依賴自己 我只能逼自己更獨立
雨再大過了總會天晴 不過時間而已很久很久很久以後
當我抱著別個他的時候
也許我就能夠 對你笑著揮手
也許會釋然分手 是個出口
很久很久很久以後
當你牽著別個她的時候
我們這個傷口 也許不再難受
好久不見的朋友 祝福你們 直到永久只是怕可能 以後愛別人 無法像愛你那麼深
但愛到了盡頭 哭有什麼用 也只能接受
愛情裡一切莫須有很久很久很久以後
時間會把回憶慢慢偷走
此刻承受的痛 會慢慢變得虛構
不過就換了一雙 執子之手
很久很久很久以後
你我都各有所愛的時候
我們這個傷口 再也不會難受
好久不見的朋友 如果再見 微笑點頭

It basically it was a song referring to past love and meeting someone new. There’s one part the song writer express that it felt like a tree uprooted from the ground when the ex left – felt so lost being taken away from comfort and doubt if he/she will ever love as deeply in the next love. The moment I understand the lyrics this morning, I actually cried to it. This is exactly how I felt at the moment.

As my previous post, I have begin to start opening myself up to meeting new people. So far, after the Mr.B ghosted, I was so angry and just wanted to test if I’m really that undesirable in the dating space, so I tried out Facebook dating. It is a simple widget on facebook where they could help up matches for you within certain variable such as basic things like religion, age, height and living place. Pretty much like Tinder, but you could filter out the awkwardness of meeting friends who’s already friend to you on Facebook. Imagine, your colleague found you on Tinder while swiping faces. Akward righttt!You could also make the setting to meet people whom you have no mutual friends at all, but I felt that could put you to meet shady or fake profiles (yes I have 1000+ friends on Facebook, unless you live on top of a tree), very likely I would have some mutual friend with you.

Things aside, I have been chatting quite abit with a few people. Initially, I really prefer meeting people from Kuantan. But seriously, Kuantan man all like uncles or ah boy. Or worst, my school friend older brother. At one point I have to tell this dude to stop texting me politely, by saying we can play badminton together next time, but I can only see you as a friend. He texted me back, but I did not reply back because didn’t want to lead him on by giving clear signal. At least I did better than Mr. B from LA date (ghosted without a sign). Regardless, how lah my matchmaker could find me a potential match. I could only imagine the challenge I’m putting Jessie through. Ok Jessie, I feel you now.

So far, good matches for me are NOT from Kuantan. How lah. Mel, are you seriously looking into another LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP? Kuantan guys, where the heck are you? Kap kap yu lok linggggggg!

#Blessed 32

It’s my birthday few days ago. My, turning 32 this year. I think I lost count after hitting 30. Normally, I need to use a calculator to figure out my age when someone asks how old I am this year. Gosh, thirty-two! How’s life been treating me, on my second year in my thirties?

Well, for once, I thought it wasn’t too bad. Except I thought I would be married by now, and planning for pregnancy. But yeah, some things are not meant to be the way it is. Besides that, I have a good career, family and health. I say all in all, alles good.

What pressie you receive on your birthday?

On my birthday, I really didn’t expect that much of birthday pressie came showering. It first started off with Yuna sending her boy boy to my office a day before my birthday to delivered home-cooked pesto set. I am touched, because she actually remembers my birthday before the actual day (I normally depends on Facebook) to remind my friends’ birthdays.

Another was my cousin sister who have been impressing me since last year with her fried chicken bouquet. Omg, the effort she puts through is incredible. She baked a choco sponge cake (recently she is strucked with baking fever), played the piano for my birthday son and pakat with her colleagues to present me a tart. Aihhh.. so many gift just from one person! I’m overwhelmed.

Next, was mommy, every year, she would design a cake just for her daughter, because she likes challenge and her daughter loves giving her mom challenges. So I asked for a “tarty” type of cake. So she made quiche, apple crumble and ham baked cheese tarts. So much of tarts… and she start preparing for the pastry a day before. So much effort!

Lastly were more cakes and fruit bouquet I received from my fellow colleagues. OMG, I really didn’t expect that kind of gesture from them.

What I didn’t do this year for my birthday?

This year, I didn’t do some charity on my birthday. In the previous years, I would prepare some desserts and pau to distribute at the old folks home. I think birthday is not only about me, but also about sharing the love with others. But, this year, due to my laziness and lack of time to prepare, I decided to forgo the idea. Especially with MCO thing, better not go to spread disease to others too.

The thing about gifting

I a sucker when it comes to gifting. I give very lousy, convenient, easy gifts (or rather thoughtless type of gift) like vouchers, freebies or just cake lah (when your friend have 100th cake present from others). I felt it takes alot effort to give present. And when too much thought is put onto it, it makes me WANT the present too. I know this is not good behavior but I can’t help it. When come to gifting, I felt my ex was some of the most thoughtful “gifters”. Those gifts he gives, may be expensive or not, but people actually USE them. For example, the flasks, hand sanitizers, traveling notes, bluetooth speaker, all are inexpensive, but they are really thoughtful. At least he don’t give me keychains, mugs or photo frames. Well, one good idea I have about gifting on the next person birthday is, NOT GIVE CAKE, but SOMETHING SAVORY, OR A DRINK. Because in my case, I have received so much cakes, which I could only finish in the next two weeks. Or say, just bring them out for lunch like Venus did – which is a good break from C-A-K-E-S.

LA Date #Mr. B

Hah! I didn’t know so fast, I will have to start giving review on my first date. Only last friday I got to know Mr. B and today already need to write a review about him. So Mr. B was the date whom Jessie introduced to me last week. He’s from KL and is currently working as a teacher. Well, in my opinion, the conversation went quite well, he speaks very good English and well mannered. Unfortunately, I couldn’t meet him through zoom, so I could only communicate to him through whatsapp. Unfortunately, he doesn’t use a real profile photo on his whatsapp, and he took too long to reply my whatsapp texts, curiousity got the better of me to do some further digging.

Turns out, from some little tweeny miney info he gave off, I went to do some searching on Facebook, and I found his profile! Ha! Gotcha. But really, he is not super charming, and I infer that he’s quite a quiet person. One thing I liked about him was that he posts alot of little classroom experience with his students. It’s funny and lighthearted to read. I think I might like him in person. Then because he took waaay tooo long to reply I even found out his horoscope is a Scorpio. Sorry Mr B, you gave me too much time to build my curiousity.

Don’t say I’m superstitious, but it does have some kernel of truth. Scorpio are mysterious, and if they don’t like you, they don’t waste time. Well, that was so true. Because on Sunday morning, after I replied his text, he just ghosted and stopped replying my message. Well, maybe he’s like “Girl, I got enough of you. Not my type, bye”. Har? I’m like I become nervous and kept waiting on the message, I wish he could just like push a button and tell me to stop waiting his message. Every other hour or so, I try checking my phone. I’m like “Gahhhhh I got nothing better to do is it?”

So come Monday, Jessie came to check in with me how did the date went. I told her that I didn’t know what I did wrong but this dude just stopped replying my message. Then she comforted me saying that “Oh, maybe you are from different state”. It got me thinking if she did check with the guy if he’s comfortable dating someone outstation? Like, I felt all my nervousness, and worries, comes to THIS? I didn’t paid to become like this. She promised she will find a better match, but I’m starting to feel a little disappointed about it.

What type of guy would date a girl from outstation when he could just dated ANYONE, ABUNDANT, PRETTY GIRLS, from KL (especially guys who plan to settle down)? Unless I’m like super chio, exotic out of the world, which I’m not. Even then, won’t the same problem came back and haunt me? Ok lah, even another guy willing to date this girl from a kampung, then I’m gonna end up in ANOTHER LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP is it? BTW, that was the main reason why my last relationship ended. The location differences, we never address it. Last last, dah propose also can cancel. You see, you see! Waste my time.

Maybe Mr. B did the right thing by being ungentlemanly, to have ghosted like that. Like, why waste time to date someone far far away. And maybe I was too serious and enthusiastic about it? For example, if you meet someone on a social setting, you think he’s not suitable you just leave the conversation, right? But the difference is, I didn’t see you leaving or talking with someone else, and kept on waiting, holding your drink. I rather you be frank. Like hey, I’m leaving because there’s another girl I’m interested to right now. Pain is better than wait (like an idiot).

I must have been too long away from this dating scene. And I felt never before my confidence went so low. I want to feel empowered. I know it has nothing to do with the other person, but the doubting and waiting has started to wear on me. I never looked at my phone so often that I noticed there’s a small crack near my camera. Or, I never scroll more than 30mins on facebook feed waiting for reply. This IS exhausting. I didn’t know being in the dating scene could affect me that much. I want to be out of the dating scene as soon as possible!

My Journey thus far with Lunch Actually

Remember how I said that I have strong feeling that my next relationship will be introduced by someone? So, at the begining of this year, I signed up at Lunch Actually. Considering the social circle I’m currently in, and how Mom’s been not proactively helping me to look for a match (TLDR: there’s this banker guy she think is quite a good guy, but before she could introduce to me, he already has to return to Ipoh), I decided to take things on my own. It’s Covid season, they are giving extra discount since most dates will be only meet thru virtually. Minus the fancy dining, and F2F interview in their center, they are giving me a discount for 3+1 dates for about RM2K.

The first person to contact me from LA was Rene. TBH, I felt comfortable talking to her about my ideal match compared to Dateworks. Also with dating agency’s help, I feel more secure knowing someone as the agency will verify those people who register with them, and most importantly, they get to ask difficult questions which you would not able to otherwise ask in a normal social setting (IE: are you planning to married in the next few years, what’s your income, do you plan to have children, etc). So I did tell Rene that I’m not looking for someone at the moment till say in April / May. And she told me that there is potential suitors from my hometown. That was in early Feb.

But after that, another girl took over from there, Jessie as my matchmaker and Rene the sales coordinator. She gave me a quick call last week and told me she has a match for me. I told her I did inform Rene that I’m not ready to meet someone right now, but she insisted that I should give it a try. So I gave in. Then come to yesterday she called me that she has this guy for me, say he’s friendly, educated, caring, family guy, he is from KL. I did dully inform them that I wanted to meet someone from Kuantan. But still, Jessie urged me to get to know him. So ok lah, I agree. Last last, because we both cannot schedule a time, so Jessie created a group chat for us to chat and that’s it. Then she told me that this wouldn’t be counted as a date, but just to know a friend. Oh, well.

I’m not in hurry to meet someone, but maybe she has KPI to fulfill, or the other party is urgent (but I’m sure there’s more girls than guys in any dating agency), so I really don’t understand what’s the rush here.

So far, no red flags with the guy, well mannered and quite conver-sy; but I’m not sure if Lunch Actually could deliver their promises actually. It is a shame that the person that I bought the program, wasn’t the SAME person who match-make my matches. I hope good things turn up well from there – fingers crossed!

p/s: but I really tired of long distance r/ship! I want to meet someone from the same area and settle down.

Happy CNY!

Me & my CNY angpows! *btw, i dyed my hair twice after last attempt, and it defo looked more bright!

It’s CNY season now! But this year’s CNY will not be the same as the years before. Before, we have big gatherings, house visits, mahjong sessions, gossip sessions freely. But it definitely not going be the same with the COVID-19, and MALAYSIA has not mass immunized it’s community yet. Therefore, with strict SOP, we could only invite small group of people for home gatherings

Before of the extra free time, besides eating fried poppiahs and pineapple tart alone, I also ventured on taking some self portraits during my free time. How else to past time during the holiday whilst showing off my new year clothes? Hehehe

Besides, we also did some SMALL scale gathering lah. But really with work colleagues and close friends. Annd, every year, I have relearn how to play LAMI and some card game. I liked lami actually, it is about strategy rather than luck. Unlike those BUN-LUCK, which entirely depends on luck, you have less control of the outcome.

How are you spending your new years?