Malaysian Winter 2021 Edition

Even Mickey have to wear her PJs and I have a makeshift fireplace for her.

It’s the time of the year again, when Malaysia is hard hit with monsoon season. To me, I enjoy rainy season. It keeps me indoors, and be grateful I have a home that shelter myself from the cold weather outside. On days like this, I could imagine myself holding a hot mug and read a book while in the background playing some jazzy music. But as we know, as the rain went overboard, it could be a disaster for many people.

To be honest, I never experienced this type of Malaysian winter in childhood, as far as I could remember. But, recently in this good 5 years or so, monsoon in Malaysia is getting more and more unpredictable. The town which I resides in, never have flood, suddenly was struck by flood in 2014. Everyone was not prepared for it.

I recently learnt from my yoga instructor, that during flood times, it is likely that some house will be out of electricity. He say, imagine you live in the neighborhood where you cannot access to ATM, charge your phones, or microwave your food, no Food Panda. I can only imagine! Come to think of it, it make sense now, if you have flood and live electricity in the waters, that would be even worse! You will have human Churros laying admist the waters.

But, those were the times, and nowadays, we are better prepared for monsoon season. We will check the weather reports, Facebook page (any roads facing flood), watch out the longkangs so there is no accumulated water, etc.

Weather reads 26C, but it feels like 2Celcius for an average Malaysian

Take for example, I was home late because I was waiting for the rain to subside after badminton, but mom was worried so she advised me to look for roads that is unlikely to be flooded to get home soon. She was right, because had I not heed to her advice, my poor old Volkswagen Beetle would have end up swimming in the roads of Kuantan.

Water flooded from Jalan Air Putih 5th January 2021 – credits from Whatsapp Group

So buck up friends, stay warm like a hotdog, just like Mickey. But, remember to look out at the longkangs if the rain went too hardcore.

Should You Keep in Touch with your Ex

Shanghai Lady with Cigarette, based on the works of Liu Ye

I always have this theory, if you both first started as strangers, then when things end, let’s be stranger again. I see no point of staying in touch or communicate with each other. I would like to come clean for my next relationship, and it would only be fair to others. What’s the point of keeping in touch EVEN you broke off peacefully. The thing is, unless you want to create unnecessary doubt or cast worry to our partner, then go ahead. If that don’t convince you enough, give me example of people who have found happiness in relationship, if they didn’t cut free from their old ties.

Things I wish I knew before my first attempt in Acrylic Pour

As everyone ushering the new year 2021, I’ve been busy painting painting and painting. I’ve made several artworks, but one of the novel one was the acrylic pour. I’ve been seeing alot of the impressionistic and abstract works flowing online.

Also, these organic artworks can be done by any lay people, regardless any way you approach it, it will turns out nice and not too childish on your wall. Just what I looking for to decorate onto my rather empty wall in my newly shifted house.

After watching several acrylic pour tutorials on Youtube and references on Pinterest, I decided to go with the impressionistic seascape view. By Cathy Sik:-

And following the tutorial and some personal research, everything was fine, except here are few tips to add on if you’re also like me on your first time trying acrylic pour:-

  • Preparing your acrylic pour colors:-
    • If you’re like me, using acrylic colors from tube, and blending it out using pouring medium, mix your colors in the cup FIRST to your desired shade, before mixing into the pouring medium. As it will be difficult to blend the colors together once you have the pouring medium.
    • Also, try to make similar consistency for each colors as you do not want one color runs faster than the rest. The consistency for each color should be honey-like.
  • Blowing your acrylic
    • In the tutorial, Cathy blew some of the colors to create waves, but I realize overdoing it can “break” the waves into smaller colors, unless that’s what you going for, go ahead
  • Your final artpiece, is not your final artpiece
    • Although acrylic known to be fast drying medium, because of the thick consistency that was used in the pouring technique, it continues to move around even after you have leave it flat on your counter top. Mine was different from what I initially did in the night before, but well, that’s the beauty of it, let nature take it’s course and surprise you
    • Don’t try to control the outcome too much, since it will continue to run into itself after your leave it dry
    • Also, I added some hair oil to create cells, to my surprise, it didn’t come out immediately after I did my pour but the cells only start to appear the next day. This is amazing. Now I finally understand why some people find acrylic pour so fascinating.

Happy pouring, and I hope this some little information from me will make you less nervous about doing your acrylic pour.

Why you should announce your divorce / breakup on Facebook

As we bid goodbye to year 2020, here are some of my year summary:

1. Went through break up, and survived

2. Played most badminton matches

3. Took up painting

4. Learnt read & write Chinese characters

5. Did not die nor contracted from Covid

For 2021, lets soldier through!

My subtle yet dully Facebook post on 31st December 2020

Facebook is a good place to announce that you are dating someone, getting married, having babies, all the goody news, but it may also be a good place to announce unfavorable news like divorce or for my case, a break up.

Here’s to why I think people should announce their relationship status on Facebook when they broke up with someone.

  1. Shut them up
    • If you’re like me- high profile couple, who love posting photos of your boyfie, about your travels, datings and couply musings on regular basis, most likely some of your friends would come to ask about you and HIM when they sees you. If you’re like me, hate explaining things all over again to friends, announcing your breakup through Facebook, would stop people from asking you about him
  2. Cut the guessing game.
    • Guilty myself, I sometimes stalked my friend’s Facebook page when I don’t heard anything from them about they and their boyfie / hubby. I would start stalking their FB or asks friends around like, “Are they still together or not”, try to read beyond their facebook posts to guess if they’re still together, or comb through their photos to see traces of evidence. And the worst case scenario, is you don’t want people to start spread rumors about you.
    • Yes, I got dumped. But at least I’m not seen as the unfaithful smug, or the one who give up easily. Dear Ben, you are a man of few actions and many shit. At least, in the eyes of people who didn’t know me, they knew I deserve better. Sorry, if you got dumped, you are the stronger one.
  3. Alighting possible suitors they’re next
    • Just perhaps, there’s someone out there who has been looking out for you, but you’re not available, maybe it’s time to give them a signal to the one who got unnoticed.
    • Or even better, your friend would most likely think of you when they wanted to recommend a suitable bachelor they’d known who’s looking for someone too. I mean, common’ at this age, 30+, I start to lose hope on cyber dating as they come with many scammers, just put me off. My only best bet of meeting another is through friends’ recommendation. At least, he’s another chap, that you’re uncle prolly know or your friends may have rubbed shoulders with him.

P/S: It appears that it wasn’t me who’d got into this shit in 2020, seemed like many couples suffered similar fate as do I as written in this post: 2020 Caused ‘Breakup Wave’ in Malaysia, KL and Selangor Records Highest Breakups

In the news, what caught my eyes was this:-

After analysing new user data, they found that the greater number of them are:

Female medical staff members, with teachers and tour guides coming in in second and third.

Among them are also foreign men who are either engineers, those working in the financial industry or those working in the legal industry.

The surge of people flooding the cyber love space, gives me uncomfortable feeling. If you too, just break up in 2020, my advice is NOT to start looking for love in this place. You prolly gonna meet another poor soul to get over his/her ex.

I felt that after a breakup, finding a new love to heal is not the right way. My advice is, don’t rush. Spend time to yourself, be comfortable on your own skin, build and invest to yourself, till you’re truly ready. Then only talk about meeting a new person. If you rush into the next, your next prolly will end like the last.

Happy Christmas!

Its been a wonderful holiday to me. Yes, is Friday, some of my colleague complained why is on a Friday when they have to go back to work tomorrow. Well, to me, a holiday is syill a holiday.

Today i got to do some of the things i really been looming forward to do much, that is painting, reading and running! Glad I got to do them all today!

Painting:

Little snowman

My first watercolor doodle from something Christmassy. And something little comfortable

The study of an eye from Yong Chen, watercolor

Then as I got more comfortable, I moved on to painting something more realistic. I am not courageous enough to draw with watercolor yet, so I outlined it with my pencil first

Minimalist Boho Chic Art with Acrylic

I just bought a 30x30cm canvas, so I tried to paint something which I could use as a decoration in my room. Turns out acrylic is not yet my forte. Bought a few more canvas to explore on acryllic pouring in the coming days

Reading:

The Love Market, Marina Ashade

This book caught my eyes when I was browsing for Lillian Too’s 2021 calendar at Popular. Basically, it is a book about the economics and to spice things up, sex. Interesting, but Im still reading into it

Running:

My run progress so far as on strava

I realized my optimal running and anaerobic performance is better when I did Galloway’s Run Walk Run strategy. However, my total pace is slower. Hm, Im still testing on it. Regardless, I am definitely running faster a montj ago. Im a happy girl, yippeee

My running pace when i first started

Day 32: Love Scam

Recently, I heard that a friend got scammed in a relationship. The person uses a videoto extort something out of him. But since he mention things about “love” “video” “shameful” “extort”, could have easily draw the lnes about what it is roughly pointing to.

But lets not infer and talk about meeting someone with pure intention to get to know you, is getting more and more scare. Like how Yuna told me nowadays her Tinder date has been someone who wants to sell her insurance. Geez, this is so gloom. How are we going to meet someone if out theres so many people with bad intentions? The

When love happens, brace it. But take it with caution. I live in a age where 60% of my friends are not in a relationship lest married. Are the next population be made up of mostly single adults?

Meeting someone is really tough at this age of digital, which bring information at fingertips yet divide people apart

Day 31: Bitch it right

Today I have the courage of the century to call off a bad behavior of a staff. She has been showing bad examples to others, since I dont know when. Didnt learn to speak softly to superiors.

Especially ever since my dad asked her to stay back, she become more daring to climb over head. Helllo, whos the boss here.

And even when she wants to say sorry, she say it in a way to bring me down along. Like, to justify her behavior, she consider my behavior is bad. Hello,

1. Others bad behavior dont justify your bad behavior as right

2. And pls dont equate your boss behavior to you. Because, essentially, you are the employee. Not me.

In addition, I never speak above her infront her staff, what gives her right to do so? What, you want to show others you are above me? Sorry, i pay your salary. Not the other way round.

Bitch, please

Day 30: 1 month since breakup

My first monthiverysary after broke up with Ben. I have yet to think what excuse to tell someone when they asked me about him. I think the easiest explanation for people to comprehend my also very difficult to explain situation is that he had an affair.

But that wouldnt be fairto him, no? If I say, he realizes that he suddenly needs to stay in Singapore or prioritize his work over me, that seem to be a relevant and reliable person. Do I want to paint him in that color?

But if i say he has affair, dont that give people to pity me or I make such bad choices? Fuck, I fucking hate you because you leave me in such difficult position, you are definitely idiotest or the idiots.

Enough with your miscalculations in life. I hope you miscalculated more in life included the fact youare born.

Breakup Day 29: I fucking need to pee!

Mickey sleeps whenever I go

I remember when Mom first learnt about my break up with Ben, she starts to loosen abit about the rules to allow Mickey into my bedroom. I remember I felt less sad that night, when she was in the room. Looking at her sleeping soundly into abyss, was such a calming scene. 29 days down the road, now she’s almost a resident to my house.

Well, I guess it is true, when people say when you loose something, you gain another.

To encourage her good behavior, every morning, I will potty train her in the garden. We make sure she poo poo only in the sandy and not thr grassy or garage area. To our surprise, Ghalit, the other dog also followed Mickey good behavior. It is a good sign.

Besides, the fact that I sometimes have to wake up earlier to bring her to poo, I have to wake up extra earlier too. I start to understand her little behavior such ad when it is “I am bored, so I come to disturb you”, “I need to pee” and “I fucking need to pee!!”

Breakup Day 28: Brother had epilepsy

Today brother had an epilepsy attack. It has been more frequent of late. Im sad to see him suffer so incontrollaby. For a moment, I think breaking the wedding with Ben was the right decision. I need to be with oth my family, they need me and I cant just leave everything behind and run with him to Singapore just like that. Most of all, my family need a man not a child who is naive about business. He should at least understand about the real world. Not “oh, maybe I want to start my own cafe or my own business after I come Kuantan” without considering the risks.

It is always the best decision to make to put family first. Like how 九王爷 said, family are like roots, they will bloom after winter.