Breakup Day 23: What if

I’ve been wondering what if, I didnt give him an option to cancel our wedding? It was a promise give out, it wasnt supposed to be broken. Was it my fault to have given him that freedom to break his promise? What if I didnt confront him? Will our relationship be better now? What if, I hold on a little longer, fighting for us, without him knowing? Will I be happier, or perhaps somewhere along the way, because he sees my sincererity, he would have changed his mind?

But, what if things goes smoothly, aand we proceeded with wedding, and somewhere along the way, we meet another obstacle and hes in doubt, then he decided to give up, or feel ”tired” again?

Dear Ben, if you’re reading this, I want to tell you, you said, you didnt want to play mind games, but do you realize you havd been playing mind games with me? Four years, i put up with your MIND GAMES and belived what you said was true. You said you wanted out because i didnt trust you. So if i trust you, you will continue to go on? NO. You just wanted to find a good excuse to blame me for the failure of this relationship. Admit that, you are a childish and irresponsible man!

There’s no what ifs! The fact that you gave up too early on us, define what kind of a man, husband or father you are. Moms right, you are only good at 1 thing, but when you have other task at hand you wouldnt manage it well. Im glad you wanted out. Your decision showed your weak personality. I hope you never find someone to broke their heart, you weak soldier.

Breakup Day 22: Life is so fragile

Yesterday, I got news from my dad. One of his best friends, passed away due to leukemia. He discovered he had leukemia about months ago, after he got bitten by a dog and proceed to blood test. He’s one jolly uncle who drinks a lot. That uncle who always cracks a lot of “难GET”, passed away peacefully after battling with leukemia for a good 14 months. At some point dad said at least it wasn’t a long battle. A sudden death, that didn’t caused much torture and emotional stress to people around is the best. He managed to claim a good RM700k of insurance.

Like my relationship with Ben, was a happy one for a good 4 years. I did not struggle with doubting or emotional stress when I was with him. It was sudden, but yet not a arduous journey. I’m not sure if he felt the same, but I surely do. It wasn’t too bad actually. Do not be sad because it ended, but be happy because it happened.

Dear Dai So Uncle, glad you lived a jolly happy life. May you continue to bring smiles and laughter in heaven