As we bid goodbye to year 2020, here are some of my year summary:

1. Went through break up, and survived

2. Played most badminton matches

3. Took up painting

4. Learnt read & write Chinese characters

5. Did not die nor contracted from Covid

For 2021, lets soldier through!

My subtle yet dully Facebook post on 31st December 2020

Facebook is a good place to announce that you are dating someone, getting married, having babies, all the goody news, but it may also be a good place to announce unfavorable news like divorce or for my case, a break up.

Here’s to why I think people should announce their relationship status on Facebook when they broke up with someone.

1. Shut them up
   • If you’re like me- high profile couple, who love posting photos of your boyfie, about your travels, datings and couply musings on regular basis, most likely some of your friends would come to ask about you and HIM when they sees you. If you’re like me, hate explaining things all over again to friends, announcing your breakup through Facebook, would stop people from asking you about him
2. Cut the guessing game.
   • Guilty myself, I sometimes stalked my friend’s Facebook page when I don’t heard anything from them about they and their boyfie / hubby. I would start stalking their FB or asks friends around like, “Are they still together or not”, try to read beyond their facebook posts to guess if they’re still together, or comb through their photos to see traces of evidence. And the worst case scenario, is you don’t want people to start spread rumors about you.
   • Yes, I got dumped. But at least I’m not seen as the unfaithful smug, or the one who give up easily. Dear Ben, you are a man of few actions and many shit. At least, in the eyes of people who didn’t know me, they knew I deserve better. Sorry, if you got dumped, you are the stronger one.
3. Alighting possible suitors they’re next
   • Just perhaps, there’s someone out there who has been looking out for you, but you’re not available, maybe it’s time to give them a signal to the one who got unnoticed.
   • Or even better, your friend would most likely think of you when they wanted to recommend a suitable bachelor they’d known who’s looking for someone too. I mean, common’ at this age, 30+, I start to lose hope on cyber dating as they come with many scammers, just put me off. My only best bet of meeting another is through friends’ recommendation. At least, he’s another chap, that you’re uncle prolly know or your friends may have rubbed shoulders with him.

P/S: It appears that it wasn’t me who’d got into this shit in 2020, seemed like many couples suffered similar fate as do I as written in this post: 2020 Caused ‘Breakup Wave’ in Malaysia, KL and Selangor Records Highest Breakups

In the news, what caught my eyes was this:-

After analysing new user data, they found that the greater number of them are:

Female medical staff members, with teachers and tour guides coming in in second and third.

Among them are also foreign men who are either engineers, those working in the financial industry or those working in the legal industry.

The surge of people flooding the cyber love space, gives me uncomfortable feeling. If you too, just break up in 2020, my advice is NOT to start looking for love in this place. You prolly gonna meet another poor soul to get over his/her ex.

I felt that after a breakup, finding a new love to heal is not the right way. My advice is, don’t rush. Spend time to yourself, be comfortable on your own skin, build and invest to yourself, till you’re truly ready. Then only talk about meeting a new person. If you rush into the next, your next prolly will end like the last.